Posts Tagged ‘true community



(First published on June 3, 2009)

The monitor already displays my blog’s Write Post page. I open iTunes, click Radio, choose the Ambient streams and then double-click Grove Salad on SonaFM. Ah…

These past few days I had been stressed with writing and countering blog comments about Atheism. It all started when I stumbled upon Jobo’s article Problem of Evil. But I’m not going to talk about that now because those are issues that are so important they deserve some decent time of reflection first. So for now I’m just gonna take it easy, hoping you wouldn’t mind this change of pace from race to cruise. Besides, I could use a little break to recharge my batteries and defragment my brain.

Ah, my speakers are playing this very cool ambient groove. I turn my head to the glass just inches to the left of the keyboard, and I lift my left hand to touch it, with three fingers at one side and my thumb at the opposite (I am actually typing this with only my right hand so this might take a little slow). With the slightest force I tighten my grip on the glass, lift it, then slowly bring it to my lips. I take a sip. Ah…

I put down the glass and resume typing with both hands (see, I’m now typing faster). But then, the mind stops running. I can’t even think of a title for this piece. Well let’s leave that for now. I’m sure it will just come later.

When the mind is on cruise mode, one cannot predict where it would take him. Most often it would be somewhere interesting, especially if it reaches into the deepest recesses, bordering on the subconscious.

I have always been fascinated by the human mind, how amazing it is for all its faults, and how it seems to instinctively seek the truth in spite of the powerful ways it tries to delude itself. Of course, not all succeed, and some do fall prey into the same trap they tried to avoid.

But like I said earlier, I’m not gonna talk about the heavy stuff right now as I want to keep my mind on cruise. So Jobo, although I would never un-approve any comment you submit unless it’s inappropriate (a strong difference in opinion is not considered inappropriate), I would appreciate it if for now you’d take it easy on your comments. Just for a little while. Then we could get back to debating again, and maybe even actually transcend our differences.

I remember the book The Different Drum, written by The Road Less Traveled author M. Scott Peck, M.D. It talked about true community and its four stages (courtesy of Wikipedia because I’m too tired to compose from memory and my mind is on cruise mode right now, remember?):

  • Pseudocommunity: This is a stage where the members pretend to have a bon homie with one another, and cover up their differences, by acting as if the differences do not exist. Pseudocommunity can never directly lead to community, and it is the job of the person guiding the community building process to shorten this period as much as possible.
  • Chaos: When pseudocommunity fails to work, the members start falling upon each other, giving vent to their mutual disagreements and differences. This is a period of chaos. It is a time when the people in the community realize that differences cannot simply be ignored. Chaos looks counterproductive but it is the first genuine step towards community building.
  • Emptiness: After chaos comes emptiness. At this stage, the people learn to empty themselves of those ego related factors that are preventing their entry into community. Emptiness is a tough step because it involves the death of a part of the individual. But, Scott Peck argues, this death paves the way for the birth of a new creature, the Community.
  • True community: Having worked through emptiness, the people in community are in complete empathy with one another. There is a great level of tacit understanding. People are able to relate to each other’s feelings. Discussions, even when heated, never get sour, and motives are not questioned.

Ah, Jobo, I’m sure we are now way past the pseudocommunity stage. :)
God bless!


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