When A Woman Shares A Problem (Uh-oh)

When a woman shares a problem, the man instinctively puts on his Handyman cap and tries to offer solutions. Unfortunately, contrary to Handyman’s assumptions, this is not what a woman wants. Because what she wants is simply to have someone to whom she can pour out her pain and frustrations. And after that she’ll be fine – stronger and again able to continue taking the same crap day after day.

A familiar scene: A woman pours out to a friend about her abusive man and their volatile relationship, and as the friend silently absorbs her pain,  she regains the strength to continue living her shitty life.

Now why can’t she just leave her man? Probably because they’re both sick. I’ve read from one of Scott Peck’s books that it is harder to separate two sick people than if at least one of them was mentally and emotionally healthy, because in sick couples the partners feed off each other’s sickness. And maybe that’s why  she simply cannot leave him, because no matter how much she hates him, she also desperately needs him, albeit in a twisted way.

Fortunately, not all women are like that.  I guess most women, when they pour out their heartaches, simply shed the bad stuff so they can breathe in the good, renewing their strength not only to face the problem but perhaps even to solve it. I think they don’t want us to help them solve their problems because they are quite capable on their own, thank you – they just want us to give them the strength to do it.

Woman, without her man, is savage.

Or is it:

Woman! Without her, man is savage. inner minds

4 Responses to “When A Woman Shares A Problem (Uh-oh)”

  1. 1 suzette
    September 5, 2009 at 1:44 am

    if a woman shares her problem, a man should listen. it’s the only way he can understand his woman. it might also provide him with answers pertaining to his dilemma with women.

  2. 2 suzette
    September 5, 2009 at 1:50 am

    i truly appreciate that you know these things bout women. no wonder why u know how to take care of her. she’d be in debt of gratitude for being one of the reasons why she had become a better, stronger person. i therefore say that you’re one amazin guy..truly one of a kind.

  3. 3 suzette
    September 5, 2009 at 1:55 am

    do you also use this to seduce or manipulate a woman knowing her to be quite vulnerable during such emotional situations? hehehe.. it’s so you..juz’ kiddin’.

  4. 4 Malcolm Hep Hep Hooray
    September 13, 2009 at 7:50 am

    When a woman has problems, don’t utter a word, let her speak. Listen. Only a few men knows this. Keep it coming Jong.

    Hasta la vista, baby!

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