Due Influence Part Two: Big Daddy

In my Fathers Day article Due Influence, I wrote:

Whether we love them or hate them, we cannot deny their influence on the choices we make and even on what we become. Especially if we hate them. We may think that it is our own choice to not follow their footsteps and to avoid repeating their mistakes, but it is exactly because of what we see of our fathers that we made this “choice”.

Since I’ve been reading and commenting on some atheists blogs lately, I could not help but relate our fathers to our God. What I find interesting is that among the articles I’ve read, the atheist writer was attacking the fundamentalists’ idea of God, which is very similar to a little boy’s idea of his daddy – big and strong and brave and wise and good and always there for him with just one call.

Then the boy grows up into his teenage years and discovers that Daddy is not really always strong, Daddy is not really always wise, and sometimes Daddy even lies or at least refuses to answer your questions, after which Daddy leaves you. So the boy learns to hate his father.

And when a man hates his father, he will try to become the exact opposite in terms of attitude and principle. If his father is a strict disciplinarian, the son will tend to become lax and free wheeling when he moves out. Now please correct me if I’m wrong, but I think this is a major reason why atheists attack the belief in God with zeal. I mean, it’s one thing to not believe in God, but when one comes close to actively preaching atheism, there must be a reason.

I am sure the atheists are fed up with religious rules, rituals and dogma, and the threat of eternal fire in hell. They experienced religion as a tyrant enslaving them, forcing them to abandon reason and free will. More importantly, they saw how the Philippines, the only Christian nation in Asia, became the Sick Man of Asia because its people keep on relying on a Sky Daddy instead of taking responsibility for the betterment of their lives (paraphrased from Thoughts To Provoke Your Thoughts). They have a good point actually, and this must be their reason for hating Christianity. Like a child hates his rod-wielding, absentee father.

For this I think some churches are at fault for instilling this Big Daddy concept of God (do not question what we say, do not try to reason; God will provide, now give us your money). In short, they gave God a bad name.

But I don’t believe that the same God who gave us intellect would demand that we abandon it. We have to tread the path in search of Truth. So as we grow intellectually and spiritually, we might come to see God more like a Partner, perhaps a senior partner, with whom we enjoy a nourishing personal relationship.

And as the boy becomes a father himself, he finally begins to understand his own father.

And sometimes he might even get to see his father as a real human being, complete with weaknesses and bad choices, instead of an invincible super hero. (from Due Influence)

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1 Response to “Due Influence Part Two: Big Daddy”

  1. June 24, 2009 at 6:25 am

    Atheists (at least me?) do not really attack theism/Christianity. I think ‘attack’ is not be the right term. Criticize is.

    “I mean, it’s one thing to not believe in God, but when one comes close to actively preaching atheism, there must be a reason.”

    –>Yes, there is a reason. Each atheists have their “own” reason of becoming one (or closely preaching to atheism). One cannot really put in one basket all atheists. There are atheists that are communists, humanists, freethinker, or simply a man who is lazy going to church and became an atheist. We all have our own reasons. Unlike the theists, I see only one (or two) reason why they worship God. They all have the same reason. MY reason is to wage a battle against superstition, ignorance and deception. Fighting the forces of false hope and blind faith. Making others realize that they are wrong so that they could improve.

    Now I really encounter a lot of theists that knock (and preach) on our doors and tell us to do this and that so that we would all end up in heaven. Instead of making our society better, I believe they are making it worse by teaching others not to use their minds (to think) and by giving them false hopes. That is what I want to change.

    You sound like my teacher in Philo in her theist mode. I agree that somehow, the church (or the middle men [priests, pastors, nuns, etc.]) is giving a bad name to your God. 🙂 But since we were children, that is really how our parents, pastors, church, teachers, evangelists, taught us right? That God is the sky daddy up there who listens to our thoughts and counts our sins. It is only later that I realize that that is just the bad image of God. Unfortunately, although I also encounter the ‘good’ or better image of God, my thinking mind still do not tell me that that being exist. I wanted to believe it but the evidences are just weak (not enough) and are logically invalid. I see no reason to believe in God and I live my life with the assumption that there is none.

    Searching for truth is not really enough in finding answers. It is because truth is very subjective. What may be true to you may not be true to me. We all have our own personal truths. If one wants answers, one must also think. Thinking would really help us more as society than searching for truth. 🙂

    Thank you,
    Discreet Infidel

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